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Another Year Passes

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Areala

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Holy crap, it's been well over a year since my last blog post. How on earth does that happen? I guess 2014 just got away from me, that's all. There's really nothing else I can say beyond that. I haven't abandoned the blog or anything, I just don't have all that much to say about gaming at the moment.

Most of my work here on Retromags as of late involves the magazine database. Just as few minutes ago, I put the finishing touches on the index for issue #50 of Computer Gaming World, and before the day is out I'll probably do issue 51 as well. Why not, after all? :)

For those who didn't see the topic posted on the forums, Indiana legalized same-sex marriage on June 27th. That day, my partner Jessica and I made our way to the county clerk's office to obtain our license. We exchanged vows, a kiss, signed our names on the certificate, and it was official: I was now Mrs. Areala.

Things seemed tenuous for a while afterwards. The attorney general filed a challenge, and suddenly it wasn't clear if we would be considered legally married or not. After several other states challenged, the cases as a whole were brought to the 7th Circuit Court of Appeals, which held that Indiana's ban on same-sex marriage was unconstitutional and we could breathe again. A further challenge to the Supreme Court was met by the court electing not to hear the case and side with the 7th Circuit's ruling.

It looks like the Supreme Court will be deciding this case before too long though, because the 6th Circuit Court of Appeals just ruled the opposite way in another case involving a different state's ban on same-sex marriage. So it's back to holding my breath, wondering if the rights every other married couple obtains automatically will be stripped away from us, our license invalidated, and the discrimination against me for having fallen in love with another woman continued. Guess we'll be filing our taxes separately again this year, even though the Federal government says we're legally married. All I can do is keep my fingers crossed in the hopes that reason will win out over fear.

I don't discuss politics on the Internet mostly as a personal choice, because you know what they say about opinions. But this last year has certainly been a rocky one for myself and my wife. We have been together now, living exclusively as a couple, for seventeen years. That's longer than most heterosexual marriages last in this country. I'm as committed to her now as I was the day I took the chance to tell her that I'd fallen in love with her, and I'm still as ecstatic about our lives together as when she whispered back, very quietly, that she loved me too.

Video games are slowly evolving to include same-sex relationships among the characters, and more to the point they're positive ones, not flamboyant stereotypes. It shouldn't be too much to ask for the same treatment by the real world. :)

In any case, the blog's been quiet for a bit because I'm been working to scan covers and index magazines, not because I don't have anything to say. There's only so many hours in the day, and I have to prioritize. So I haven't abandoned writing here, there just hasn't been anything worth saying more than working for the site over the last year. I hope you'll forgive my silence. :)

*huggles*

Areala

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Very happy for you and Jessica, Areala! Stay hopeful - I know the road for equality hasn't been easy but the country finally seems to be coming around. Too slowly, I know, but the writing seems to be on the wall.

For future generations, I have no doubt all those scenes of anti-gay marriage protesters on court house steps will look just as crass and bigoted as the anti-interracial marriage protests that came before.

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Thanks for your vote of confidence, RetroD. :) I know one day I'll probably look back on 2014 and think to myself, "What on earth was I so worried about? It all worked out in the end, didn't it?" But it's hard to be patient sometimes, isn't it? :)

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You know, when even Wyoming (my home state) passes legislation allowing same sex marriages, I'd dare say you guys will be just fine. Our parents' generation is being replaced in both politics, and to an extent, the work place, by our generation.

Frankly, the only argument that I've ever even considered to even hold any ground has been the religious side of things, in upholding their rights to not be involved in ceremonies and the like. However, even as a Christian myself, I rather take offense at people who make it their business to interfere with the lives of others simply for lack of anything better to do. A relationship is between two people and their creator, let them sort out the particulars, it is literally NONE of my business.

Best of luck to you two, but worrying can only rob you of the peace of today. :)

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Yeah. I'm Christian, just like te72. For a while, I was not for the idea of legalizing "same sex marriage". But, that view has "evolved" as they say nowadays. Still disagree with any "marriage" termonology, as that to me is exclusively a religious ceremony. But as for legalizing the union of two consenting adults, that's nobody's business but their own.

My opinion, for what it's worth, is that government should not be involved in "marriage" or "unions" period. If two people want to file taxes together, or work out healthcare issues together, that should be fine no matter what the relationship to each other. Marriage should be wholly outside of the realm of government. But since government seeks nothing more fiercely than to control as many aspects of our lives as possible, that will never happen.

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